“Melissa, you would be so much better off if you would just accept that you are never going to get better.”
“I love you.”
…. keep encouraging the weak ones to stay in their beds….
“I want to thank you for a few things; firstly, for being such an inspiration to me. Who you are, where you’ve come from and where you are now has been fuel for my personal flame….”
“Don’t ever wear yellow again.”
Words have power. These words above have all been said to me and they all had enough power to impact my life whether negatively or positively.
Some people can get over words. Sometimes even I do. Often I’ll just forget your words (over 40 and lots of meds to blame). You never know which of your words will have that staying power though, so it is worth remembering. It is worth remembering that not only will your words become the house you live in but also the mental homes of those you’ve directed your words at in your day to day life.
There was a post on Jezebel after the election that highlighted all the tweets with the *n* word in it. I can’t bring myself to link to it because I was heartbroken for days after reading it.
I sat my children down and spoke to them about words. They have been obsessed lately with “bad words”. They want to know what all the curse words are (“…. so I won’t say one by accident, Mom.”). They want to know the meaning of them all and what makes them bad. “If bitch means a female dog, how did it get to be a bad word to say?”
I talked to them outright about all the words I could think of that are unkind and not acceptable in my home. We talked about words that aren’t curse words, but people use in derogatory ways like retarded or gay and why these words should never come out of their mouths. Children can ask such awkward and unexpected questions that you might believe that you’ve covered pretty much everything until you think about all the words that can hurt people. I am sure that there are still so many I didn’t begin to touch on.
As a parent, my words sit inside my children’s minds forever — at least the emotions I invoke with them will. My words have the power to create self-confidence among many other things. I saw a graphic floating along the web… a parent’s voice becomes the child’s inner voice. I also remind them to think before they speak.
Parent or not, everyone’s words have the possibility of being the echo in someone’s mind for a lifetime. Kindness is still such a rare commodity and yet so easily given with little effort. Be kind with your words. They have more power than you realize.
xoxo ~ Melissa