I don’t know if I’m a romantic. I believe I’m kind of a middle of the road type when it comes to that stuff. I don’t like to be given flowers (they die) and I’d much rather play Everquest II than go dancing the night away. I am big on love though.
To me love is a forever thing. Whether in friendship or a more intimate relationship – once I love you, then I’m going to love you forever. Short of you abusing me or harming my kids, your place in my heart is permanent.
I don’t know if this is a gender thing or a personality thing. I do know men and women both who feel that love is a choice and that when it is over — that’s it.
I posed this question on Facebook and one of my favorite responses was from Cindy Svoboda who shared: “It’s an exchange of essence. Never ending but it changes over time. Somethings we do not realize is that (if you believe in past lives) many of the people we love in this life, we have loved in other lives as well.”
That’s exactly how I feel. In talking to someone earlier today, I was reminded of the first time we met and how for me it was more like a recognition of souls — ‘Hey, I know you.’ It’s the same with an old friend that I miss dearly even though we don’t talk any longer… my love is as strong today as it was when we were kids.
I do admire those who can let things die naturally. In a way, I wonder if it is a more healthy way to approach having people in your life.
I’m glad though that I love the way I do. When those people come back into your life (as they do with technology making the world smaller and smaller), reconnecting is like coming home to the place where you were warm and safe. The smile that comes along with all that lasts a long time too.
What about you… How do you love?
xoxo ~ Melissa