Owning The Truths Behind The Mask

Oscar Wilde once shared: “Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.”.

But wouldn’t it be nice if you could be  yourself without the mask?

Take off yours and what would be your truth? Perhaps you would discuss your political or religious beliefs more openly. Maybe you would share about mental or physical ailments without fear or shame or embarrassment.

In the last week or so, I’ve been grateful to read so many wonderful posts by brave women.

The one thing all of these women have in common is that they have removed their masks and opened their hearts and souls to the world. They pushed past their limits, tapped into their courage and they share from their depths. They find release as well as becoming a support system to everyone who reads and sees themselves in those words.

Me? I worry. I worry about what family members, old friends and my children might think. I spend time trying to come up with every possible negative scenario. I start and stop posts over and again… digging deeper for my truth and working on the courage to take off my own mask.

The topics I want to tackle like childhood peer sexual abuse, dating violence, date rape, severe depression and anxiety, how emotional issues affect parenting and a slew of others all seem too taboo. I have barely touched the surface of the subjects that scare me. And if there is something that terrifies me, that is my signal to write about it.

So this is my reminder. Not my first one and I am pretty sure it will not be my last one. This is a gentle nudge to push myself out of my comfort zone. Writing is an excellent therapy tool. And I also keep my gratitude to those women like the ones above who set the bar for sharing truth so that I know to keep reaching.

xoxo ~ Melissa


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    Melissa, I am both grateful and sad. Grateful that you thought my post at Girl Body Pride was worthy of inclusion with the other exceptionally talented and brave women (most of whom I’ve met but likely don’t know my story). I’m sad that my post haunts you, even though I know you mean it in the best of ways.

    Thank you very much for sharing the post. I hope it helps others, especially women who feel like they’re the only one in the world parenting a child sexual abuse survivor.

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      And parents who are survivors themselves.

      And yes, I meant that in the best possible way. You reached me on so many levels and it was the only word that truly fit because your words have been in the forefront of my mind ever since. I hope that you see this as the tribute it was meant to be. I am so grateful for you and for your bravery.

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    I see you as someone who is transparent and who does work to share her truth. We all do that to greater or lesser degrees but I agree that it’s good to push yourself to do it, especially if it’s cathartic for you.

    I had a mask on for a couple of years when dealing with PPD before I started blogging about it. It was when I started to write that I took the mask off – both in my writing and in my life. One of the best things I’ve ever done.

    Thank you for sharing my post and your thoughts. :)
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      I had my mask off when I was able to do it anonymously. *grins* It is a little different as just me, but I’m trying.

      By telling your truth, you have helped and inspired so many people. Your strength allows for others (like me) to be strong too. Thank you for all that you do.

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